I have always wanted to be like everyone else. I spent most of my childhood wanting everything I didn’t have (which now I see wasn’t much) and wasn’t the important stuff. I didn’t want to be a little different. I didn’t want to have curly hair in a world full of straight-haired people. I didn’t want freckles in a world full of non freckled people. I just wanted to be like everyone else. As an adult, I struggle. There are A LOT of fads, trends and interests of the adult population that I just don’t share. At first I thought something was wrong with me, well because that was always the reason I didn’t fit in before, but then it occurred to me………..there’s nothing wrong with me, this is just how the world works, different strokes for different folks. It’s okay that I don’t like Twilight, or Harry Potter. It’s okay that I prefer cop TV shows to Reality TV. THAT’S WHAT MAKES ME DIFFERENT! But again, I find myself wanting to be just like everyone else.
And I guess that’s what has me so disturbed today. I have a love hate with the internet right now. I love the internet. I started working in online advertising in 1999, I’m what you’d call an early adopter. I truly don’t remember what it’s like to live without internet! I find I have a different perspective on a lot of internet trends because of this. (more on this in another post soon!) Mostly I have had a hard time jumping on board this blogging train (ironic, right?). But last night it finally came to me. I don’t dislike the blogging world, I dislike the mommy blogging world. I find it despicable. Don’t jump down my throat yet, hear me out.
I rarely if ever read these blogs. After accidentally getting drawn into that world last year when I joined Twitter I often stumble onto a mommy blog now and again to see what people are up to. This past week I’ve been home flat on my back sick as a dog in bed and found myself reading a blog or two on my iPhone. And I found my blood boiling, and not from the flu. I’m angry at some of what I read a lot of what I read. People are hypocrites on their own blogs AND PEOPLE SUPPORT THEM!! No one calls them out! No one says anything, cause that’s not the cool thing to do. And when someone DOES say something, a team of defenders and haters attack said person with the opposite opinion. It’s totally screwed up.
For starters you put YOUR world out on the table and up for judgement the minute you post and share via Twitter & your blog and then you contradict yourself on same platform? I don’t get it. I personally have called someone out on this in the past and she was not quick to apologize but very quick to try to defend herself. It’s stuck with me for months now and bothered me and then yesterday it hit me. JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE YOU LIKE SAYS SOMETHING YOU DON’T HAVE TO AGREE WITH IT!
If someone I liked and respected tried to tell me the sky was green I’d say, no it’s not, it’s blue. Would you?
I think there is something fundamentally wrong with our society that as adults we attack each other for having differing viewpoints and opinions. For not accepting differences as something beautiful and what makes the world go ‘round. Whether it ‘s a book or TV choice, or brand of clothing, SAHM vs Working mom, breastfeeding vs formula feeding, I don’t care what it is, YOUR WAY IS NOT BETTER and neither is mine.
This is what I hate about the internet today.
I have unfollowed, unfriended and hid people who have loud, differing opinions to mine. Admittedly, I have several friends that have extremely opposite viewpoints to mine, and I LOVE THAT. I cherish that. I may not agree with their politics or their parenting styles but as long as they can support what they love and are okay with my not seeing it their way, it works. It’s when those with the strong differing opinions DON’T find it okay that we don’t see it the same that I have to hide, unfollow or unfriend.
And today I realized why.
It’s that herd mentality. That idea that EVERYONE NEEDS TO DO THINGS THE SAME. That’s how the Holocaust happened people. Now I realize that’s a tad dramatic when I’m here talking about mommy blogging, but think about it. Hitler wanted only the blonde haired, blue-eyed Christians to survive. He wanted a world with no differences.
And then again I realized, I LIKE that I march to my own drum. I LOVE that I don’t just rush to buy the same book everyone else is reading. Or watch the show everyone else is watching. I LIKE that I do things differently. I am okay with that now.
I want to live in a world where it’s okay to be different.
I want to create a world for our children in which we reward them for their differences. Where being different is cherished. Where thinking like everyone else isn’t rewarded. ~ Traci xoxo